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Easing The Transition To An Empty Nest
In the early years of parenthood, You never think the day will come when your little ones are grown and ready to leave the house. The days of combing out tangles and wiping chubby cheeks often seem like they will be here forever. However, the days pass too quickly into years, and before long your kids are ready to fly away from the nest. This can be a difficult moment for any parent to deal with. While your kids are preparing for this major milestone in their lives, you can also set about charting your next course of action. This will help you cope with the trauma of saying goodbye to your children.
Keep in mind that no matter what happens, you are always going to be your children's dad or mom. Your children do not need you in the same way, but they still need a relationship with you. When children are small, they are dependent on you. You must teach them, train, them, guide them, and discipline them. Once they grow up, their link to you changes. They are still likely to come to you for advice and counsel. However, very soon you will notice a reversal in this trend as you begin to seek their advice on matters concerning you. The relationship can move away from the parent-child relationship of their childhood toward a friendship, a very close and beautiful friendship if neither of you seeks to be controlling.
Your child moving out of the house can present you with a new opportunity to get reacquainted with your spouse. It?s hard to get time alone with children in the house. Now you can get to know your spouse better on an intimate basis and work toward a better relationship. Now you can do what you wanted to do in the past, but couldn't manage to fit in with the children at home. Be creative and have some fun with your spouse. You may just find that your child leaving the home helps to bring the spontaneity and romance back into your relationship. You can enjoy similar benefits if you're a single parent. You could head on out and meet new people with all the free time you now have on your hands. You just may find love in the process.
Parents often have to place their children?s needs ahead of their own. It?s finally time to put yourself first. You don't have to procrastinate any longer in focusing on yourself. Now is the time to do all of the things that you always wanted to do. How about taking a trip! You can go anywhere you want. You can pick up a new hobby that you have always been looking to take up. You can do what you want to do now.
Don't jump into any life-altering decisions the minute the last child walks out the door. Allow yourself time to get used to the idea of an empty nest and find the blessings of the new situation. Even though the children are grown and away, it is good to call up once in a while, just so you know they are doing fine and they know that mom and dad are still there for them.
Keep in mind that you did your job in getting them ready for life without you. They are prepared. There should be no doubt in you about them. You have raised them up and raised them well. Both of you are ready to enter the next phase life has to offer. This is an exhilarating opportunity.
